Dating scam victim stories
"Even in the last decade, so many more people meet other people online for the purpose of dating," said New York attorney Jonathan Hood, who has written extensively on internet fraud. Of course, the best way to tell if the person you are dealing with is real is to meet in person. "If they say, 'I'm not ready to meet you in person,' or 'I want to continue just chatting online,' that could be trouble," Hood said.
"It just makes it so much easier for people to connect without ever meeting in person, and sort of as a result, never really verifying that the other person is who they say they are." In the latest twist, reported on the next episode of CNBC's "American Greed," con artists are exploiting Americans' respect for the military. Moving your relationship from virtual to real is a big step. If you are not yet comfortable meeting your new friend in person, Hood says to at least try to move away from the confines of the dating site by getting their email address or connecting on Facebook. "If you start getting, 'I'm not sure that I'm comfortable with that yet,' it doesn't mean that they're a scammer, but in my mind it would raise some red flags," Hood said.
But in fact, that person is a con artist who learned about your love for cats, or Jane Austen, or the U. The FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center said in an alert earlier this year that users of social media and online dating sites should always assume that con artists are watching, and trolling for victims.
Suddenly, you and your new online beau have an "uncanny" connection. Be careful about how much you reveal about yourself online.
"I was really embarrassed that I could let this happen to me." Before you say to yourself, "That could never happen to me," consider the fact that the FBI recorded some 15,000 romance scams last year, a jump of 2,500 from the year before. Because it is practically impossible nowadays to date without some use of the internet, experts warn that you need to take precautions before jumping into the dating game.
"I was pretty upset because I felt so excited that I thought that I had met somebody," she said.
If you are also using an online dating site, it is easy for a scam artist to cross-check your name with your Facebook profile.
In the end, he will be left financially exhausted, and " she" will continue to pretend like she is just one Western Union money transfer away for finally being able to meet her beloved. An adorable and lonely gay guy from Russia will be the main character of the same travel story, with very minor changes."She" will get robbed or attacked, may become injured or sick, may suddenly get arrested, or her apartment may get flooded or burned.The scam will go on for as long as the guy is willing to continue sending money to help his "Russian princess" to get through her never-ending travel misadventure.They ask for money, like "Adam Smith" did with Lilo Schuster. "You feel like you're contributing to your relationship, that you're helping his daughter be able to go on a trip that he couldn't provide for her, but, you know, he'll pay me back is what he had said," she recalled. If someone you are dating — online or otherwise — asks you for money, do not give it."I would say, 99-plus percent of the time, the answer would be, 'I'm sorry, I can't send you any money.' I can't really envision a scenario when that's anything other than a scam," Hood said.